Day 3: The 5 Love Languages

Apparently there’s 5 categories of love languages and I only found out recently. Unfortunately for the people in my life, I think I only know how to use about 3 of them.

I wanted to do something a little more fun today and casual that’s different from the sadder reflections so I thought: why not rank the 5 love languages? I’ll be ranking them based on my personal interpretations and opinions.

There are five categories of love languages:

Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
Receiving Gifts
Quality Time
Physical Touch

But which one do I appreciate the most receiving and how do I express my love (whether platonically or romantically) for someone?

Since I’m curious, I’ll leave a poll under to see what you guys think my number 1 love language is before you guys read it. These polls are ANONYMOUS so I won’t be able to see who voted what.

I’ve also added a screenshot of the love language tier list after each ranking so you can keep track of it. Enjoy!

5. Physical Touch

Let’s start with physical touch. I’m ranking it up here at number 5 for two major reasons: one, I don’t experience it often and two, I’m not a big fan of it especially when it’s unexpected. When it comes to being touched (this sounds so stupid), I’m personally not the biggest fan. I’ll flinch or jump if someone places their hand on me unexpectedly. I used to always get jump scared at home by my brother so that’s why I jump easily. Like I’ll be going to my room and then this tall ass dude comes out of nowhere and slimes me out. Fortunately it doesn’t happen anymore so I’m thankful for that. I also don’t like touching people because I respect people’s personal space (unlike someone in my family).

Yeah so because of all that, physical touch is going at number 5. This probably will be ranked higher once I enter a romantic relationship but I’ll see in the future.

4. Acts of Service

Next up at number 4 I have acts of service. This one’s a bit weird because I love doing it for other people but have a harder time appreciating when it’s done for me. Something that’s true for me is that I’ll always be willing to sacrifice my own time and energy for other people. For example, I could be playing video games by myself or really really tired (like get me on that fucking bed I’m bouta pass out tired) and if someone asks me if I can help teach them something I will ALWAYS muster up a surge of energy somehow to teach them.

The reason it’s only number 4 is because I find it pretty difficult to appreciate the act of service itself when someone does something for me. Rather, I’m appreciating that they’re willing to be there for me and spend time with me. So I guess it’s more of a filter for me that I see acts of service more as quality time rather than something someone does for me.

3. Receiving Gifts

Receiving Gifts is going to be right at the middle ranked number 3. This one’s a bit tricky for me and I could definitely argue it being number 1. Despite Christmas being my favorite holiday and being the most common holiday for gift-giving, I don’t actually celebrate it. I also rarely receive gifts and give out gifts to people. Let’s talk about receiving gifts first.

I find it easy to find symbolism in a lot of things, especially for gifts. If a gift represents something about me or a particular moment in my life that I value, that gift can mean a lot to me. Particularly, I’ll put it on my desk or use it in my regular life and pretty often, I’ll reminisce about the time I received the gift and what it symbolizes to me.

For giving gifts, I put in a lot of effort into my gifts. I could be traveling from store to store or doing everything I can do to get a particular item that I want to give someone. Like I remember one time I kept bothering my brother to get something for me repeatedly for a few days striaght until he did it. And then I’ll spend a lot of time preparing a letter/message for them and also spend a lot of time thinking about how I would give it to them. I care a lot about how much I mean to a person and so a gift is a really good way to leave a good, mostly permanent impression on someone. I think a reason why I don’t do gifts often is because I prioritize spending money on myself (and even more recently after feeling the need to work on different parts of my appearance). Maybe once I have a lot of money lying around I’ll invest more into giving gifts. Gift giving could definitely be number 2 or number 1 but at my stage of life it’s not something that’s as big for me.

2. Words of Affirmation

Coming in at second in my list, I have words of affirmation down. Words mean a lot to me. Like a LOT LOT. A single compliment could make my entire day and maybe even a few days afterward too. This might not be directly related but if the words mean a lot to me, I’ll be able to remember exact conversations for a few months straight or even longer. Words have the power to communicate how much I mean to someone and as mentioned before, that means a lot to me. So when someone tells me how much I mean to them, it’ll make me smile so much that you could probably tell the difference on call. A recent example of the compliment thing was when I was complimented on my new jacket. It made my day from then on so much better. In fact, it’s probably one of my favorite jackets that I own AND I get to attach a compliment to the jacket. I guess it just represents how my efforts are being recognized and the idea of being seen as a person, which also means a lot to me.

As for giving words of affirmation, I value it a lot. I spent a lot of time on calls with people so a lot of my communication with people is through mostly words. If you’ve read my original reflection back in January, you would know how I started appreciating compliments a lot more. Since then, I’ve actively been trying to find things to compliment about people because of how much positive and happy energy it creates alone. Unfortunately, I sometimes have things I would want to tell people but I miss the timing to do so because of some overthinking. Also, you can probably clearly see through the existence of this blog alone why I value words so much.

The reason I put words of affirmation above gifts is that yes, gifts might represent a moment or something specific about a person but I see that as more indirect. Words are more specific and clear in messages that I value them more and won’t have to guess the hidden implications behind them. In other words, words of affirmation are much more explicit than gifts. Also, I might not remember a gift if it isn’t present in my life but a person doesn’t have to be directly in front of me for me to reminisce about what I meant to them.

1. Quality Time

With everything else gone, I have quality time left for my number 1 love language. In a world where scarcity exists, we sometimes fail to see how valuable time and energy as currencies are.

I think it’s pretty clear that I’m a pretty sentimental person and attach meaning easily throughout this entire ranking. Gifts might be able to represent a moment of quality time but isn’t the quality time itself. And during quality time there might be some strong words of affirmation spoken between people, yet it’s the presence of actually being there that means the world to me. They are taking the limited time and energy out of their day to just be present. For example, someone might decide to go home with me through the same train and take a detour. I see it as they would rather spend time and more energy/effort to be there with me. I can remember exact conversations for months/years straight but I’ll remember some of the best quality time moments for a lifetime.

Spending quality time is really easy for me and I’ll always be willing to be there for someone. In fact, I would call myself extremely clingy. Sometimes I’ll stay way longer than I need to with someone just so I can be there with them. And I’m not talking about minutes, I’m talking about HOURS. Sometimes I’ll take up to 30 minute detours just so I can walk with someone more. It’s so bad that I think if I get into a toxic relationship in the future, I probably won’t make it out alive (I’d be lucky to make it out at all).

And that’s my ranking for the 5 love languages. These rankings can definitely change as I grow as a person but as for now, that’s it. I’ll leave a poll up both on Instagram and under here because I’m a bit curious on what the most popular love language is. Just a reminder that the polls on WordPress are ANONYMOUS. Hope you guys are having a nice day and see you tomorrow for my next post :))!

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Photo of the Day: A photo with me picking up my little brother from school. He had a pretty bad nose bleed today. Also wanted to try out my new leather jacket that I just bought. Might not have styled it the best but that’s a problem for another day.